But on your wedding day you’re both the centre of attention all day, lots of cameras pointing at you, everyone commenting on how you look, what you’re wearing, your hair, your rings etc. Are you even more worried now?
There are some very simple steps to make sure you enjoy your day and leave the worrying to someone else –
Step 1 –Make sure you look your best.
Obvious? Not really.
Ladies - Book a hair stylist and practice hairstyles before hand to find one you’re comfortable with, also get a professional makeup artist to do your make up on the big day, shaky hands don’t make for an even application and
the ability to stand back and look at the effect as a whole is well worth the expense. Get your nails done in a salon a few days before so you’re used to them if they’re longer than you’re used to. And don’t forget your bridesmaids too – they’ll be in most of the photos with you.
Men – Get your hair cut a few days before the wedding so it’s looking its best. Treat yourself to a shave by a traditional barber – nervous hands shouldn’t handle a razor. And finally go to a manicurist (Yes gentlemen I’m serious) Close up photos of the rings will show those damaged cuticles, chipped and dirty nails.
What to wear? You may have seen a dress or suit in a magazine but does it really suit your shape?
Ladies - Go to lots of bridal shows, look at lots of styles of dresses, DON’T set your heart on one style until you’ve tried on at least half a dozen dresses. Ask the designers what style they think will look best on you, they’ve seen more bad decisions than you know. And although they want the sale they will give you honest opinions on what is the most flattering style for you. Also take a trusted friend for a second opinion – someone who will tell you that dress makes you look fat. Shop around.
Men – Whether you’re wearing a suit, top hat & tails or something else entirely make sure you feel comfortable. Go to a top suit / clothes shop and ask for an assistant to help you find a style that suits you. Take a friend you trust (a sensible one) for their opinion.
Step 2 – Advance Planning
You don’t need to be worrying about the small details on the morning of the wedding. Make sure you plan everything well in advance. Book a wedding planner if you can afford it – they can then liaise with the venue, caterers, flower suppliers and everyone else.
Most wedding magazines have wedding planning information and timetables. Check them out. Keep a diary with dates of when things need to be done by and stick to it. Don’t be afraid to ask for help– you can’t do it all yourself (mothers are very useful here; just ensure you let them know who’s in charge).
Finalise all details a week before then all being well you can sit back and approach your day relaxed. You won’t be able to smile and look relaxed in your photos if you’re worrying if the cake has arrived ok.
Step 3 – Get to know your Photographer
Yet Again Obvious? You’d think so– some people never meet their photographer before the big day (if you can believe it)
Do you want a stranger taking your photos? Of course not. You want someone you know and trust to get the best of the day and who knows how to make you look you best. You need a professional. Your friend may have a new camera but can they cope with low light inside without blinding you with flash? Do they know how to ask you to pose to get the best romantic shots that still look natural? Will they cope with organising the guests? Getting people where they need to be for group shots? Make everyone relax and smile? – Probably not.
So why am I suggesting you book a stranger? Because it’s their job, they will know how to cope with any situation that arises that day and ensure you still get your photos even if it decides to throw it down with rain.
Arrange to meet your photographer at the wedding location so you can get to know each other and they can talk you through ideas for photos on the grounds. How they convey their ideas will give you a good grounding for making your decision about trusting them with capturing your day. It would also be a great time to organise a pre-wedding/engagement shoot. This way you get used to how the photographer works, practice poses without the time pressures of the wedding day and get some lovely photos to boot. By the end of this session you’ll be at ease with your photographer, their abilities and hopefully have made a new friend.
Now when the big day arrives you will be able to trust them to capture the fun and romance, to cope with all eventualities and make you look your best.
Finally –Smile and enjoy your day